Befriend the Change
A 6-week course uncovering the connection between personal work and social change
An introductory class on the tools you need to move forward with being the change the world needs
You want to be the change that the world needs, but don’t know how to do it. You see the need for large scale social change, realize it’s a big complicated issue, and you’re feeling stuck and frozen about how to move forward.
This class will give you the tools to move forward. It will serve as an introductory dive into yourself, into the personal work required to excavate and transform your stuckness.
You will be introduced to the tools that I’ve found are the most potent in this work, the reasons behind why we desperately need to commit to these tools, and practical ways in which you can put these personal tools to use in your own life in order to change that stuckness about being the change you wish to see in the world.
You will emerge with greater motivation to improve your relationship skills, which are the start of any social movement that lasts, and a greater foundation for building that skillset.
You will realize what it really means to believe that change starts with you and how to live into that belief, and feel confident in your ability to take those first steps.
“Can we all get along?” Those often misquoted words were first uttered by Rodney King on May 1, 1992. Whether or not you’re old enough to remember his beating by four LAPD officers and the subsequent riots, it’s hard not to feel like Americans haven’t learned much in the last 29 years about getting along. Two historically divisive presidential elections, the normalization of contemptuous social media posts about “the other,” and now the politicization of COVID masks: when even basic questions of public health measures can devolve into virtual shouting matches with friends and family, it’s time to take a step back and reflect on what’s going on.
What helps people get along? More fundamentally, what are the characteristics of a healthy relationship?
- Both people are free to be themselves.
- Both people’s feelings, needs, and gifts are acknowledged and respected.
- Both people’s lived experiences are understood and given weight.
- Both people feel free to give differentiating feedback and to ask for what they need.
- Both people are able to receive differentiating feedback without losing control of themselves.
- Both people feel free to set boundaries with the other when needed, feel secure that their boundaries will be respected, and feel free to take space away from the relationship if needed.
- Both people are actively concerned for the well being of the other.
Erich Fromm, in The Art of Loving, said, “Love is possible only if two persons communicate with each other from the center of their existence, hence if each one of them experiences himself from the center of his existence.” In essence, our ability to have a healthy relationship with another person depends on our ability first to have a healthy relationship with ourselves and with life itself.
This six-week course is designed to take the participant on a journey to the center of their existence and back in order to unleash their power for self-love, which is the prerequisite for universal love, which is the only solution to the many problems facing humanity right now. The curriculum draws from many different disciplines, including history, psychology, trauma recovery, mindfulness, personal development, sociology, biology, spirituality, and collective liberation.
Goals of the course:
- See and be inspired by the connection between personal growth and social change.
- Believe that personal growth, and therefore social change, is only possible after one has achieved self-love, which starts with self-acceptance.
- Understand the role of pain in change. Identify your personal pain, and realize how it connects to collective global pain.
- Discover how meeting the need being communicated by your personal pain is a necessary step in changing the world.
- Learn the change equation.
- Create a plan to change your life and the world.
Tools you will learn to use in this course:
- The integral life assessment kit
- The personalispolitiscope
- The distinction between pain and suffering
- Technique: see the pain-trix
- The change equation
- The action plan
- The FEAR detector
The program includes:
- 6 weekly hour-long class sessions on Zoom, and access to the recordings.
- Homework assignments to aid learning between classes.
- 6 weekly hour-long Q&A discussion calls on Zoom, and access to the recordings.
- Access to a facebook group community to stay connected to other class members and the instructor.
Class sessions: Thursdays, 12-1pm PST, May 20 – June 24, 2021
Q&A calls to discuss the material from the previous week(s): Wednesdays, 12-1pm PST, May 26 – June 30, 2021
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